Ten Tips for a Strong Vibrant Relationship | Dr. Sue Johnson
marital therapy, this second edition is an up-to-date reference on all aspects of EFT Dr. Sue Johnson, creator of the remarkably successful Emotionally Focused Couple Instead, get to the emotional underpinnings of your relationship by. These moments are actually inescapable in a relationship. . love is that it's got a "best before" date, that passion is a burning fever that must subside. Sue Johnson is a clinical psychologist and author of Hold Me Tight. But they've all strengthened their relationships through Dr. Sue Johnson's Emotionally Focused Couples and Family Therapy (EFT) practice.
They are about someone protesting, often in an indirect way that is hard to understand, the loss of safe emotional connection. Do I matter to you? The lovers then get caught in emotional starvation, stalemate and more and more disconnection. So do try to tell each other when you feel lonely and like you are failing at being the perfect partner, especially if you are having lots of fights about tasks.
Look beneath the surface. Which one do you do?
Dr. Sue Johnson Uses Emotionally Focused Therapy to Teach Couples How to Have Great Relationships
You probably learned it very young. So do try to listen to your longings and risk reaching to connect. These other two options are traps that drive your lover away from you.
A loving relationship is the best recipe for a long and happy life that exists. Holding your lover tight is the ultimate antidote to stress. Cuddle hormones turn off stress hormones! So do take time to hold and canoodle. Lasting passion is entirely possible in love. Infatuation is just the prelude. An attuned loving bond is the symphony. This kind of bond creates what I call synchrony sex. Sex becomes a safe adventure. Making love without candid conversation is like landing a without help from the control tower!
The key moments in love are when partners open up and ask for what they need and the other partner responds. This demands courage but this is the moment of magic and transformation. So take a deep breath and listen into your emotions.
Let them tell you what you need. Then tell your partner that they are so special to you that you want to take a risk and tell them what you need from them most.
Keep it simple and honest. When you have a blueprint for love you can build it. Throughout her career, Dr. She and her colleagues also modify the EFT methods for diverse cultures around the world.
To extend her reach to even more couples, Dr. Johnson has created an online self-study course that couples can work through to achieve a more intimate and secure relationship.
Relationship | Dr. Sue Johnson
An upper-class Jewish couple in New York An elderly heart attack victim and his wife A middle-aged Finnish couple A young, recently married Iranian couple These couples come from different parts of the world, vary in ages, and come from several religious and cultural backgrounds. Johnson said of the role her work as a therapist plays in helping others. As a child, her mother left her family, and Dr. Johnson remembers how her father grieved for years afterward.
Sue Johnson uses EFT and her research to help couples find long-lasting love. Johnson vowed never to get married. She remembers telling her grandmother her reason why: But upon observing the positive impact she had on their lives, she found herself loving it. That realization of her passion for helping couples, and her interest in research, led her to develop Emotionally Focused Couples and Family Therapy EFT.
The practice has been effective with both her clients and in peer-reviewed clinical research over the last three decades.
Currently, 65 centers are operating around the world, offering workshops, training, and externships to mental health professionals who then bring their knowledge back to their practices — and couples around the world. Innovative Research Helps Couples Build Intimacy Long-term, monogamous relationships and marriage seem to have a bad reputation these days.